I don't think so...
My parents didn’t believe in giving gifts for being bad and they didn’t believe in giving gifts for being good. Kids are supposed to behave and shouldn’t be rewarded for that, as my mother would say. The only reason why we got gifts for Christmas was to stay in the tradition of giving of gifts. So we did get gifts no matter if we were good/bad. However, my parents had a tendency of buying you things you needed-socks, long johns (if you weren’t good)-instead of what you wanted-toys (if you behaved). As my brother older, he caught on to the game.
If a parent can go so far as to tell the whole story, then they should go all the way with the consequences. Good=presents, bad=coal. Kids aren't stupid, they'll learn real quick. I think it's a part of life's many lessons.
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