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To depledge, just inform your pledgemaster or chapter president of your decision. You may want to put something in writing/dated to them via email so that you don't get hit with a bill later for dues that you didn't commit to and you have proof of the date you depledged so you don't get hit with overdue late fees and dues notices. Something along the lines of "Dear Pledgemaster Paul, It is with regret that I inform you of my decision to depledge ABC Fraternity. I appreciate the opportunity to have met the brothers and look forward to maintaining a friendly relationship with the people I have met in ABC. For reasons beyond my control, I will be unable to fulfil the requirements of pledgeship this term. Thank you for your understanding. Sincerely, Petey the Pledge".

Depledging is not the end of the world. While it is common to question your choice of bids no matter if it was your top choice or not, if you have taken the time to think it over and you don't want to be in this fraternity, you don't need to be a martyr.