[Ideal08]

It really depends on the situation. It depends on WHY he won't move. And it depends on how happy I am with the company that I work for. I weigh my options like this. If I am in a fairly serious relationship, I want to be with and see that person, A LOT. So a LD relationship wouldn't work for me, because I'd be lonely. If I KNOW in my heart that this man cares for me, I'd probably stay. Because I can talk a bunch of stuff of how he should come with me and all that, but where is the compromise in that? Especially if I know I can't handle the LD portion of it. No sense in moving and being miserable because I'm away from my honey. Now if it is understood that I move, and he's following me some months later, that's different, ok, cool. But I have learned a lot in the past few years about jobs and companies. They care a whole lot less about you than your mate. I have a man who is taking care of me, has my back, and we're doing fine as is? Then the promotion and raise would be nice, but isn't necessarily needed. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. I'd stay with my dude. If we don't work out, oh well, no resentment on my part, it was my choice.