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Originally Posted by valkyrie
Situation:
Woman goes on pretty lame date (dinner and errand-like shopping) with guy. She doesn't seem to be into him and even makes a list of things that bugged her and why she's not into him.
Three days later, woman goes on second date with guy. This time, something "clicks" and she digs him.
A few days later, guy says he wants woman to "be his girlfriend."
My response: TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!
Woman's response: Why?
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So here's my question -- why is it too soon, or am I wrong?
My first thought is that unless you're a teenager, bringing up the exclusivity issue (which is what "be his girlfriend" means to me) after the second non-spectacular date reeks of desperation and/or creepy. I think there is something wrong with a person who would do that, and running for the hills might be a good idea. If you disagree, please explain.
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There's a strong chance that both he and she are 'desperate' (as the other 2 responses have noted) - I'm not sure that's the right word, but I think there's some 'needy' behavior at the least, and I'm sure you get where I'm going even if I can't find the correct term.
There's also a non-zero chance she's (frankly) full of shit about the first date - probably because she felt like she SHOULDN'T be into him (most likely b/c he doesn't make much money, isn't very attractive, is way older/younger, rapes babies, whatever). This explains the 'list' too - why make a list, after one date, of stuff you don't like about a dude? Why not just not go on another date?
I don't want to pretend to do this for a living, but honestly I'd guess she's full of shit here, and the second-date reaction is much closer to the 'truth' . . . it's still weird though, I don't know that having that conversation in that form is really all that necessary.