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I have experience with your situation. I have to say, that it's hard to trust completely after you've been hurt by someone. But, one day you may meet someone who does what he says he's going to do, calls when he says he's going to call and is generally a trustworthy person. Even then, you may still have the inkling of doubt. But being paranoid is never going to help you. I think it's healthy to be realistic and know that if it happened once it could happen again, but think about it....you could be paranoid about getting hurt and the guy could end up hurting you. Or you could trust him and end up getting hurt. But even if you do get hurt in the long run, being paranoid about it is not a fun way to live your life.
My advice is to choose the men you date wisely. If red flags are popping up left and right, don't ignore them. Most women ignore red flags b/c the guy acts like he really likes them, is good on paper, etc. Trust your gut, it's usually right. Also, don't give your trust away to someone who doesn't earn it or deserve it. Hope this helps.
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