i understand completey what you are saying, and agree with some of it. Just getting out and sorority shopping at random and the first one that "bites" joining? Nope, I don't agree with that at all.
I also agree with you that you shouldn't persue AI after graduation just because you didn't like the sororities that were on your campus, but at the same time, I don't think you should only persue one that you pledged because there is probably a reason why you did not go through initiation.
If I were persuing AI, I would, at minimum, start with the sororities at my alma mater and see if there was a local AA group near where I lived.
I also believe a potential AI should have something to OFFER the sorority. What do they do for a living? Would they be willing to assist new grads in networking for jobs? What other organizations do they belong to that would benefit the sorority in "cross" membership.
I wouldn't want someone to AI because they have nothing else to do and wake up one morning and decides AI is a good idea. I would want to know, in great detail, WHY they want to AI, and what are their plans with the sorority AFTER they AI.
I would very much expect a new AI to be MORE actively involved with AA activities than a regular AA member...because the one that went the collegiate route, no doubt, participated alot, by requirement, throughout their educational career.
I also believe, if a PAI did not feel a connection with the AA chapter, that they should do the right thing and not pursue initiation with that group, even if it is offered; just like you would never pledge a sorority if you didn't feel a connection when you are in college.
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Originally Posted by texas*princess
Yes, I realize that sorority life is "forever". A good percentage of the women I hang out with today are sorority sisters (that I met in college) and even if in a hypothetical world if I hadn't been extended a bid or I didn't join, I really do believe that we'd still be great friends. And I have definitely met several wonderful women in my alum. assoc.
I think it's different for someone who pledged a group in college, but couldn't initiate because of financial reasons or other extreme circumstances and to come back later and say, "I was thisclose to being a XYZ and I love everything about them and want to look into AI".
But for someone who randomly comes out of the woodworks to say "I didn't like any of the groups on campus" or "I didn't have time to rush when I was in college" but they have time in grad school to worry about AI'ing a sorority?
As an aside, I agree with CP2000 who said part of the reason that so many people get stalled is because they go to the orgs instead of the other way around... but that's another story for another day.
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