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Originally Posted by GDIfly
I am hoping I'm misunderstanding this paragraph. Are you telling him that if the reason he wants to leave is because he is being forced to do things that are dangerous then he should just quit because it will only get worse?
Wouldn't a better suggestion be to talk to an officer of the school's IFC or the fraternity's national HQ and report the hazing?
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That is his choice whether to report it. I would hope he would if there are truly dangerous activities taking place, but I felt no need to go down that path yet unless he offers specific situations that concern him. And report it or not, he would leave anyway.
Moral objections and perceived danger vary widely by person. I am not comfortable telling a stranger on an internet forum how to deal with these things. My goal is just to provide advice about the likely realities to come and other general thoughts so a person can make up his own mind.
Whether to report specific activities I think is something to consider internally and discuss with a confidential counselor, family and friends if need be. If he reports something that is not nearly as bad as he thinks, it will kill his chances to join another house if that is what he wants to do.
I know that sounds crazy, but there is a lot about pledgeship that is well within state, federal and IHQ regulation that kids don't necessarily like or understand to be important as part of any rite of passage.
If a person wants to report something to an outside party, that is a whole other question- which I will explore if the OP asks.