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Old 12-15-2001, 08:20 PM
Shelacious Shelacious is offline
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Originally posted by DOVE1920

I agree. But what is the definition of a successful marriage?
I think this is a question everyone must define on their own. My definition of a successful marriage is one where I feel I have still managed to love and respect this person at the end of the day, week, year, lifetime, in spite of the trials and travails of this partnership--and I would hope he could say he felt the same. I have to look at the marriage on a day-to-day basis--did I trust, love, respect this man today? Did I tell him? It sounds silly, but I know I will have to continually be mindful in my marriage to not take it, or him, for granted if I want my side of the partnership to work (I know my where a few of my own flaws lie).

For others, they may define success differently, and as a result, look at different barometers to gauge the success of their marriage. One of the major discussions I will hope to always have with my mate: check to ensure what both our barometers are! If I look at success one way and he another (and we are unaware of each other's measures)---that's asking for someone to always be disappointed and unsatisfied.
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