[KDMafia]

Well if it was the entire sorority having dinner with one freshman I think it would be considered a rush event, which would be dirty rushing. I know that at my campus silence between actives and PNMs started in october-novemberish. There was no harm with people hanging out with freshman before that as long as it didn't come across like a formal invitation from teh sorority. So a sister could invite a freshman to dinner with her a couple girls, but a freshman couldn't get an email from the sorority recruitment chair asking her over to watch movies with the chapter.

As far as dirty rushing, it happened at my undergrad but ti's hard to catch. Often time the girls that get dirty rushed dont tell cause they're happy with their bid, and girls that feel they were dirty rushed and didn't get a bid are too embarassed. The one time a sorority got caught talking badly about another sorority in their pref night occurred because they said it too a girl they thought was all about them but was really all about the sororoity they were trashing.

There also is a very fine line between being excellent rushers who make every girl feel like they're welcome and loved and blatantly leading a girl on to believe she will get a bid.