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Originally posted by HopefulProspective
I think a DAR and the AR&R report is a useful tool to those of us who want to come into any of the organizations the right way. It lets you know who to be weary of when pursuing membership.
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Sorors and SF's - - I was thinking about this and, you know, a lot of this comes down to plain ole COMMON SENSE. Whether someone is on a DAR or not, if a member of XYZ comes up to you because they know you're interested and tells you to get down on your knees and recite XYZ's Founders and then tells you to show up at his/her house in 30 minutes and clean it until it's spotless - - - you're being HAZED. Use common sense. REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THAT SITUATION - QUICKLY. That person may not have made it to the DAR yet. The DAR is only the list of people who have been CAUGHT. Out of 150,000+ members of an org, I guarantee you that there are more than just 40-50 shady hazers out there. If you participate, both of you are in jeapardy.
Yesterday I mentioned in this thread that orgs need to first examine the purpose of publishing a DAR. If it's done in order to publicly embarass people and convince them to pay fines, then (well, I still don't think that publishing a DAR for the world to see is the way to do it). But if it's purpose is to alert prospectives to potential hazers, then common sense is the answer.
So, for any prospective, use common sense. This not only applies to questionable hazing activity, but it also applies to using the principles of discretion and asking members questions about events and membership intake. 9 times out of 10, you can probably answer the question yourself, and if you can't, the answer probably isn't for you to know in the first place. As a prospective, if you want to know whether the XYZ chapter at your school is active or suspended, contact the Student Activities office at your school. They can tell you. And you don't have to embarrass yourself by asking a member that question. Alternatively, call the national office of that org. They MAY tell you.