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Originally Posted by preciousjeni
That's a gut response to appearance (or whatever it may be). What if you were to get to know an arab man (as in your example) and you two became friends? As the relationship progressed, you might become more attracted to him, seeing things you didn't see before. What I'm saying is that it would be a sad thing to refuse this possible relationship simply because your personal social group would disapprove.
I don't deny that we all have preferences (appearance, social class, education, background, etc.) but to refuse a potentially beautiful relationship based on an issue with any of those would be a loss.
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Refusing a possible relationship (that you'd actually want to have) because your social group would disapprove means you're letting the judgments of others control your behavior. That's not a race issue -- it's a pussy issue.
I disagree that declining to enter into a relationship with someone based on appearance, social class, education, background, or ANY OTHER reason would be a loss. I'd never date someone I found unattractive, period. You're saying that would be a loss, because I'm refusing a relationship based on an issue with his appearance? Even if that's true (I don't think it is -- it would be more of a loss for me to be unhappy with someone I didn't dig), who cares?