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Originally Posted by jubilance1922
Not necessarily. Both my parents worked, and my mom worked AND went to school at night. But she made it to every parent-teacher conference, basketball game, and play. In fact, my siblings and I are all extremely close to my mom. Why? Because she was always there when I needed her. I didn't need her to be home with me after-school; in fact, her NOT being there made me more independent and responsible.
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It's not an issue of who goes to what (FWIW, my stay-at-home mother rarely went to any of my events), it's who takes care of the home. I live with my SO, and by the time that we both get home, neither of us has the energy to cook, clean, or have quality time as a couple. The quality of our home life suffers, and I can only imagine it getting worse if we have children unless we hire help. One of the most important things about creating a home is having a person who invests much of their time to the home and the people who occupy it.
There's a book of essays about this topic called "To Hell With All That: Loving and Loathing Our Inner Housewife," by Caitlin Flanagan. It's a great book--one of my favorites.