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I hear you all on this one loud and clear. When you say all sorts of negative things about the guy to your friend after they break up, it doesn't help her, it makes her feel like a jackass for dating him to begin with.
When the ex Mr 33 & I split, one of my friends she said HORRIBLE things about him - and this is after he had said that he thought of her as a little sister, and after she confided to him about numerous things. She basically said she had never thought of him as a friend at all. It created a rift in our friendship that still isn't completely healed. On the other side of the coin, she dated a guy we all hated from the jump - I was never anything but icily cordial to him - and she tried to say it was the same. Umm HELL no.
So when your friend breaks up with someone, unless you've told her from the start that you don't like him, DON'T do a 180 and say you always thought he was wrong for her, etc etc. Let her wallow and keep your mouth shut. If you can't do that, you aren't a very good friend.
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It is all 33girl's fault. ~DrPhil
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