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Originally Posted by Scandia
I do not like wimpy, co-dependent people period. I find people with inner strength, independence, and many hobbies/interests/activities to be better friends anyway.
And I do wish that people would stop using the word "nice" as a synonym for "doormat", "desperate", or "phobic". I could never be turned off by someone who is "too nice"- but if he is not my type, or if he is way too phobic, or if he is lazy or unintelligent or any other majorly bad qualities, then no amount of niceness can compensate for that.
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I wasn't using it as a synonym. My boyfriend is a very nice guy and treats me very well....however he is NOT a doormat/wimpy/desperate. My point was that in my experience, guys who complain about being "too nice" or whine "why do nice guys always finish last?" are typically focusing on the wrong problem. The actual problem being that they are acting doormat-ish/wimpy/desperate.