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Originally Posted by FSMOM
The dreaded text message arrived yesterday -- "I've dropped". She did not get asked back to her preferred choice, and the 3 houses she got asked back to were ones she was not interested in...I asked if she looked deep inside the girls that belonged to the houses to see if there was any way she could find herself a part of their house, but the answer was no. Now she is dealing with more pain today because her roommate rec'd her #1 bid and welcome signs were pasted on her dorm door. Right now she is mixed with emotions --sadness and joy. What words of comfort do you say to someone that is rooming with her best friend that got into a sorority and they didn't?
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FSMom, several of us have been there personally and with our daughters as well. When I rushed the first time, I too looked at my invitations and said, 'No way." I knew what I could and couldn't accept at that stage in my life. One later offered me an open bid and I still said no. I rushed again a year later and got the one I wanted.
Looking back now, I think I could have done okay with one of those but as an adolescent--no, I couldn't. You know what you need in a group. I would advise her to do as I did--make sure her grades are tiptop and that she gets involved in some quality groups on campus, not just dorky, no-name committees (probably the yearbook wuould give her ideas.). Make sure she gets her name out and that she becomes great friends with sorority members. Several upperclass PNMs on Greekchat have gotten bids this year and she could have a shot at it too--if she develops a plan to market herself to the sororities!