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Originally Posted by srmom
My son is a senior and will be going through rush next year. I honestly have no idea how fraternity rush works. I was in a sorority that had deferred rush, my husband was in a frat that had fall rush, but it was a long time ago, so we are clueless. My son knows some guys that are in fraternities at the school he will be attending and they all say he should join their frat. It sounds like it is mostly like EE BO is saying, and he will be invited to parties at those houses this spring and summer, but will he ever get a chance to see or be seen by other fraternities? My older son went to UF and is involved in a sport so chose not to do the frat thing, but the summer before, they sent questionaires for him to fill out (he didn't because he didn't want to rush), is this general practice? At my sr son's high school, it seems like all the guys tend to join certain fraternities at this college, so are these the only parties he will go to? I don't necessarily have a problem with this because the guys we know are great, but I would like him to have options. Any info would be appreciated.
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A lot of southern chapters (big and not so big) have rush parties in the summers. Most are ways to meet potential members, get to know them, and let them know about the chapter. Some campuses allow the chapters to offer bids during summer. My own chapter would hold a couple of summer rush parties, but could not give out bids until official rush and bid day.
Guys from the same hs will tend to join the same fraternities at colleges. It's easy to judge someone when a member can say: "I know this guy and can vouch for him." or "This guy is my cousin's best friend. He's good." I think it happens a lot.
By all means, if your son wants, he does not have to sign or accept a bid before school and rush begins. He can wait and go to the parties and get to meet and know as many of the chapters as he can. Personally, I think it's a good idea.