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Keep your chin up and keep going. Pref night is really the best time to decide where you feel comfortable/if you want to go greek or not, since you get a more comprehensive view of the sororities, and since you'll be visiting chapters that want you there.

Showing interest is often a fine line between excitement and cockiness. A good way to show interest is to ask lots of questions and look happy to be there. Talk about what positions you could take--and maybe you are talking to a girl with a position, and she can elaborate on what she does. Interest in leadership is a good indicator that a PNM is interested and would be a good member. Obviously, if you're not interested in taking a leadership position, don't feign interest. You can ask about living in the house, too, if that interests you.

Ask about the new member period and if they have or what kind of big/lil activities. Ask the sister about her big or little. This is a good way to gear conversation toward something a little more meaningful, because you can get an idea of how strong their sisterhood is. Hope this helps, and stick with it, it's worth it at the end!