Judging from her posts, this isn't a chapter she'd be happy with, and I wouldn't force it if she's that adamant. Yes, I do think people should give it a shot when they don't get their top choice, but if your mind is made up, that's that. It is a committment of time and money, and if you've already determined this isn't what you want, don't waste your time or the chapter's time.
I do think that recruitment is a big dog and pony show-- you have a limited number of visits to briefly meet the sororities and come to a mutual agreement while being entertained with skits and songs and some surface-level conversation with 4-6 women. But at schools with larger chapters, it does stand to reason that you can find a fit in any sorority-- it's not that hard to connect with a smaller group within a chapter of 100+. But you have to have met some of that group during your week at ABC House to maybe come to that conclusion on your own, esp. when you're in your late teens and caught up in the excitement and rush of sorority recruitment.
I'm starting to think that doing S.I.P. isn't a horrible thing -- if you can't see yourself anywhere else, and you'd rather not be in a sorority at all if you can't be an ABC, a woman should be able to choose only to put ABC on her bid card without fear of being kicked out of the matching system for reasons other than putting down only one choice.
Rumbly-- sorry it didn't work out. Good luck to you and have a great fall semester. I know you're disappointed right now, but this too shall pass. Take care and keep us posted on your school life!
