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While I won't say that a mate can complete you, I do think that when you are with a person for a very long time, then they become a part of you (in a sense). Here we say, "My mate only compliments me, but I'm complete as I am." Yet if we were talking to a widow/widower, then we'd completely understand what they meant by saying "I feel like I've lost a part of myself" or "A part of me is missing". I don't think that these two things have to be mutually exclusive. True, you should be independent and able to love yourself and stand on your own, and all of that. However, I don't think that there is anything wrong with feeling connected to your spouse/mate, growing to depend/rely on them to a normal extent, getting joy/happiness from them, etc. This is what I think of when I think of the phrase "You complete me." I think that a mate does provide 'something' that you cannot provide to yourself. It doesn't mean that you don't love yourself or are missing something, etc. It just means that they are bringing something different to the table; just like you are bringing that back to them. This shouldn't be a bad thing. As Chrisitians we already know that Eve was scuplted from Adam's rib, so it seems that we are meant to be a part of/and connected to our mates. I don't think that you have to sacrafice your self-love, respect, worth, independence, etc to do this.
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