From what I have heard and read here, I know that Southern rush can be brutally competitive. As an 18 year old first semester freshman going through COB rush in NY, I didn't know anything about greek life. I just put on a cute outfit and some lipstick and a smile.

I talked to as many sisters as I could, decided who I liked, and returned to two invitation only final parties. I received two bids and selected D Phi E. I was not a legacy and never heard of recs. I just went where I felt at home.
Thanks Justamom for answering my question. I have always enjoyed reading your posts.
I feel kind of bad for this troubled woman...I feel worse for the cat though.