yall crazy. but anyway...
Emotional maturity plays a big part in decisions like this. Your core issues and values endure, but issues you thought were "dealbreakers" when you were 25, still carry importance, but have been moderated by other values that have come to mean as much, if not more.
I don't have the full "wife" answer yet. But when the central questions are consistently and comfortably answered:
- does she mean as much or more to you than your own interests?
- does she make you feel different (more comfortable) than anybody else on the planet?
- do you not want to envision your life without her?
- do you think about her interests/welfare before your own?
- if everything just vibes better when the two of you are on?
then, even if she takes the last piece of chicken when you were getting ready to handle it, you don't trip.....
...becuase she may very well be the one.
