Here, the Greek women generally know each other and trust each other to write recs--luckily, not enough girls rush that our daughters are rushing against each other but I can easily see how that situation occurs, justamom! The big SEC rushes can be cutthroat!
Pi Phi recs are hard to come by here because there are so few alums in town. If someone asks me to recommend a girl I never heard of, I ask some of the women I trust: teachers, counselors, women who definitely don't have "agendas". If what I hear doesn't sound good, I just find a way that I don't have to write one--as I mentioned earlier, I've only used a "no-rec" twice in 30 years.
Since I still don't know definitely where my 2 seniors will be going, I haven't asked anybody for recs yet but you can bet I'll consider all possible sources and choose the ones from each sorority that will present each daughter in her best light!
