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As someone who lost 45 lbs recently and is trying to lose 45 more (I got stuck at a plateau on weight watchers UGH!) I can say something very clearly.... I Know I am fat. This is not news to me. I have known since I was in junior high school. I was on the swim team, trying wearing a speedo in front of your whole school for meets, it doesn't let you escape the fact you are fat.
I was lucky I had friends who were supportive of me instead of tearing me down. Even when I was my heavist they encouraged me with comments like "I noticed your legs are more toned then they used to be, that is great, keep it up. Did you go to the gym today cause you are looking good." Those kind of comments kept me from getting more depressed (most of my weight come on from losing several family members in a short amount of time) and kept me moviated. They even went out of their way to suggest resturants that had lower fat options so I would not feel "weird" asking for something different. Friends should raise you up not tear you down.
If it's a sudden weight gain or loss approach it more from the attitude you see of the person. My best friend flat out sat me down and said "I know losing your grandma was super hard on you, since then I have noticed some changes in you. Can I help make anything better?" She started weight watchers with me even though she only wanted to lose 10 lbs. We both joined the same gym and she made sure I didn't go alone the first few weeks.
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