WTF? He asked for opinions. He's getting them. What's the problem? If he's bothered by what anybody is saying, he's perfectly capable of saying so himself.
It's great if you think that "Seeing yourself in a long term relationship is exactly when sex should occur." It's not great if you're going to blast people for giving opinions that were REQUESTED because you're defensive. If you're not defensive, why else would you respond like this? Everybody has an opinion on the issue of sex/drinking/drug use and in this thread, people have expressed those opinions. Why go into attack mode?
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Originally Posted by Drolefille
The funny thing is that a lot of people are claiming that sober virgins are preachy and judgemental. Take a step back and look at what you're doing. He has not presented himself as judgemental, though you jumped on one phrase in ONE reply. Yet you are judging him and people like him!
Hello!
Logic train.. it went that way.. hop on board.
Assuming that any 21 year old who's a virgin is gay, repressed, hyper-religious, or going to hump anything that moves after the first time is STUPID.
Just as you would hope a guy you meet wouldn't look at your sexual past and go "UGH" you really shouldn't do the same to him.
Seeing yourself in a long term relationship is exactly when sex should occur. Sex is basically the most vulnerable moment in your life. The time when a laugh can crush you, and when you are emotionally and physically naked in front of your partner. There's no way in HELL I'm doing that with someone I don't trust completely.
And if I broke up with my current long term boyfriend, I would have to get to know someone very well before I'd take that chance.
/Your results may vary
//Psychology of Sex is a FUN class
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