My mother has always told me I should elope...not only because my family's big (9 uncles, 6 aunts, and 21 first cousins), but also because she doesn't want to pay for it.
Also, when my sister and I were little, my mom promised us $1000 each if we waited until we were 30 to get married.
As for not derailing this topic, PhiMuLady, I'm sure it's just a misunderstanding. Planning a wedding is a huge hassle I'm sure, and she probably just forgot to let you in on that tidbit.
Best of luck with that!