shadokat, you are such a sweetie as usual.
This girl you've never met and you are wanting to help her out.
But the thing is...before this girl can even think about joining a sorority, she needs to get her head together. The fact that she is still getting in physical fights and such says to me she hasn't. She needs counseling and lots of it. Plus her parents need to get out of denial and PARENT. It's far too much to ask of 18-21 year old women to be surrogate mothers to her.