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Originally Posted by southernyankee
Is there ever a good time to "suicide"? Like when a girl gets invites to two sororities on pref night. One she is crazy about...the other, she knows she will not pledge. It is drilled into her head not to suicide...so she dutifully puts both the GLO's down on her pref card, and the worst happens(at least in her mind)...she is offered a bid to the sorority she has no intention of joining. Wouldn't it be better for her and the sorority she will refuse...for her to go solo and hope for the best? I have heard stories from girls that maybe they would have gotten their first choice if they would not have listed the second on their pref card because the sorority they didn't want had them high on the bid list...and the one they truly wanted had them somewhere in the middle...but because her second choice ranked her so high...she basically had no shot at her first choice. I suppose this could apply to just first and second choices period. Doesn't alot of the matching have to do with how high each sorority places you on their bid lists?
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I personally do not have an issue with PNM's "suiciding", particularly in a situation like this where she knew she wouldn't be happy. How many times have we told new members who came to GC and complained about how much they dislike their group that they might as well depledge and give up that spot to someone who would be a good and appreciative sister? I am not a fan of pressuring girls not to suicide.
I do have an issue with girls who cut groups very early on and don't give them a chance, i.e. maximizing their options. No one should be forced to join a group they don't want to be a part of, but they should give the groups a fair chance.