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Originally Posted by Future9529
Up until now I have been very excited but I just found out that other my new roomate and highschool friends have just decided to rush also. While I really am excited for them I am scared that the process will become too competitive. I was hoping that this would be a chance for me to do y own thing. I think it will be best if we don't share too much information about our individual processes because at least for me I want to keep an open mind and I don't want their opinions of each sorority to affect mine and I am also afraid that if they mention to me that they don't like one and I was to get a bid to it I am afriad that it would not make me like it as much. I know it will be hard not to talk about it with them but I think it would be better. I am also afraid that they will want to all put the same preferences which I do not want to to because like I said I am realy to do my own thing.
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I totally understand where you are coming from, it can be hard to take your own path while your friends from HS are nearby. I would suggest chatting with them, and everyone agreeing that you'll each follow your own hearts and it won't change your friendship. Just because you wear letters, it doesn't mean your friends must have the same ones on.
In terms of how much to tell them...I think that is something that in the end only you will know. Relationships between girls are hardly ever straight forward, we seem to have thousands of layers that complicate things. If it is too hard to discuss each day with them and still keep an open mind, then don't, there is nothing wrong with keep your thoughts to yourself. If you think you can keep an open mind and share all your thoughts, then go that route. But find a way that you feel you'll best be able to make your own decision. It is a nice sentiment to think that we can all stand up to our friends but it isn't easy, at 18 or later in life. I wish you the best of luck, you seem to have really thought about this.