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My two cents:
I would suggest talking to your friends as well. Now, IF they decide to talk bad about a house that you particularly like, keep this in mind. EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT! Just because they do not like a certain house, does NOT mean that you are not allowed to. That is why we have the tedious recruitment process, because not everyone is the same. If we all listened to each other and felt the need to walk a certain way, we would all be in the same sorority and there would not be a need for many sororities. Now, you mentioned a scenario that went something like this:
"If I get a bid to a house that my friends have been talking bad about, I'm afraid I won't like it as much."
That is irrelevant. If you accept a bid to a house, I am hoping it is because you are head over heels for that house and not just because they offered you a bid. What other people say means nothing to you. If you decide, in your heart, that you want to be nowhere but there with those girls as your sisters, then you accept that bid because you love the house and you enjoy being there with them. You wouldn't have accepted that bid because you love the house and then not enjoy your time there because your friend pledged somewhere else or said something opinionated about your sorority. The purpose of having many sororities is to reach out and find girls from various backgrounds and bring them together by the bonds of sisterhood and the foundation of a sorority to give them something in common. This allows girls that would have never otherwise met, to come together for something they are passionate about.
Personally, I went through recruitment with several friends from high school and not one of them wound up being in my pledge class. Not necessarily because they didn't like Theta, but because they found their homes elsewhere. Their opinions of other houses never swayed my opinions. Keep that in mind, and you will find your home and be truly happy. Remember that this is a lifetime decision you are making.
Now, as far as facebook and myspace goes. I do not think having a private page is a bad thing. I see a private profile as someone not wanting random people looking at her page. There are lots of weird people out there. The only time I would think twice about this is if there was a provocative screenname placed with a private profile.
Good luck sweetheart! I hope you have an amazing recruitment and you find your home. Follow your heart first and foremost.
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