Burnout!!! I wish we had a foolproof method for dealing with this, because I think it causes a lot of self-terminations. One thing I do know is that everyone should have a "outside refuge" to go to when you have had it up to here with your brothers or sisters. A non-Greek friend, a private place in the woods, whatever...the same as attached females having "girls night out" or moms having a weekend away from the kids. It doesn't mean you don't love them, but if you are around someone 24/7 you will go nuts.
How would I deal with someone who wanted to self-terminate (disaffiliate)? I'd try to talk her out of it, but if she wanted out to the point that she started doing things and having an attitude that negatively affected the chapter, I'd let her go. I agree with ZChi - there are people who join thinking it's going to be laff-a-minute and then if the chips are down, they want out. There are valid reasons, like family and/or financial problems, and in that case I hope something could be done to place the member on some sort of special status so when things are worked out she can come back.
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