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Originally posted by PhoenixGrad:
How would you deal with a Fraternity brother or Sorority sister that is dealing with this? How would your chapter address this as a whole? Do you feel this is a problem for your organization and why?
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I've been in a situation similar to this (not greek, but just as serious). The best thing you can do is have a friend close to this person talk to them one on one. Then you should follow this up with a talk from a mentor type member whom this person respects.
Just give them the opportunity to talk. Maybe they're scared (like getting married and then wondering, "till death do us part?!"
) Don't try to pressure them into anything (although you'd love to!) Let them know that they'll be loved regardless of the decision they make. Showing him or her that your greek love goes way beyond letters on a T-shirt will win them over. Also help them to see that there are different stages of greekdom; it won't become the same monotonous activities for years to come.
I don't know how they became members, but if it was on a line, then help them to get in touch with that experience again. Remind them of how hard they fought and that if they did that, they can surpass any problem that is put before them.
Topics like this make a lot of people angry b/c they feel like they're back-peddaling instead of going forward in the organization. However,it's easy to be sisters/brothers when things are going great, but the true bonds are tested during times like these. And if they can make it through this, then they'll have a greater understand of what your bond really mean.
Sorry for my rambling, but this is a subject close to my heart. Good luck with your situation.
D.C.