[BigRedBeta]

I can't fault what you quoted in the first post. It's great that there are reasons for the culture.

However, having been repeatedly told on various occassions that I'm a fuckin' yankee northerner who is ruining what being in a fraternity is supposed to be about, I can't respect a lot of what is said by most people who brag about being "fratty".

The thing that really gets me is that my experience of being in a fraternity is somehow cheapened because of A) how much hair gel I may or may not use, B) my location being outside the south C) that my chapter valued good grades, campus involvement, leadership D) or that my chapter didn't have a wet house (our house is beautiful, and large and instantly recognizable as a fraternity house) or do a wet rush. To simply say that a chapter isn't good because of these superficial things is offensive since it completely ignores what being in a fraternity should be about - friendships, making individuals better people, memories, being part of something bigger than yourself and the other intangible benefits. If it's only about how people dress, or where they live, or how drunk they can get; then what's the point? You might as well just be like the rugby team or some other campus organization that has a drinking problem.