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Originally Posted by Ace_of_Diam0nds
My time limit has always been 3 years, despite the fact that I am young, to declare one's intentions of where he sees the relationship going. Especially since I want to have kids and I do not want to be over 50 for the first college graduation. Although the health system allows us to have children far later than our ancestors would have dreamed, that does not mean we should be overly willing to encounter the risks that arise with childbirth beyond 37. The problem in our society is that women have a short period of time to decide if they want a family and how big it will be. Then she must decide when she is willing to settle down. This, in my opinion, happens before the future husband even comes into play. Most women know what they want and, despite the feared words of 'my biological clock is ticking', know that at some point the matter needs to be brought up. I would definately say that 2 to 3 years is a good time period to extend. If you wait longer, you may end up with someone that eventually changes their minds about what they want and then you are stuck in your prime doing the dating game when others are going along with their lives. There is this preconceived notion that one must get engaged and married within a certain amount of time. Most couples are engaged for awhile before they choose to take the final step. I look at an engagement as a statement that declares you want to spend your life with someone and they are absolutely important. At two to three years, a man should be willing to state his intentions as well as having a woman state her intentions. Otherwise, you are just playing around with each other and waiting for something better to come or for the bottom to drop out of the relationship.
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Unless you're 34, I don't follow your logic.
Also, I get the sinking suspicion that 'declaring your intentions' is done with jewelry.