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I really only recommend a person join a sorority if she has a strong sense of self and can work well with a group.

It is not a policy of sororities to cause rifts between its members and their relationships with those outside of the sorority. If this does happen, it is because of the immaturity of a handful of members who aren't operating under the sorority or acting as an agent on behalf of the sorority.

If some of your classmates advised or your best friend advised you to jump off a cliff, would you? I would hope you would first investigate to see if it was a 20 foot drop or a 2 inch drop.

Same is true of this issue of being with a BF or feeling pressured to end the relationship. You know what is right for you, and you should be able to stand up to anyone who questions your right to do anything that's legal and none of their darned business.

Hope this allays your fears. Stand up for yourself. And stop worrying about this! Recruitment is exciting and fun, and so is being a sorority new member. You get spoiled with oodles of gifts and there are lots of fun things to do... Like date parties where you get to bring your boyfriend!