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Originally Posted by Senusret I
It's not that simple, especially when the pride associated with being an out-the-closet homosexual is considered shameful by heterosexuals.
Being gay isn't just what you do in the bedroom. Straight people convince themselves of that in an effort to be pseudo-tolerant. Gay people concince themselves of that because of self-hatred and shame. Being gay is about love (something straight Greeks bring to the table when wearing their wedding band or talking about a date), a social life (differences in where one might club), political activism and social action (gay black pride festivals), and other nuanced differences between straight and gay people which makes us different, yet equal in the eyes of brotherhood (in my opinion).
I think if we took the same attitude that you expressed above, we wouldn't need chapters like Dr. Parks'. But we do, because of the virulent homophobia that is rampant in black fraternities. Perhaps this chapter will get conversation going -- a much needed dialogue between people who are really about brotherhood.
I really do hear what you are saying in essence, though.
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This is a very good post, because it's not just in the bedroom, and I don't think we (straight or gay) always realize that. It's a lifestyle, and the examples you gave were perfect. I don't always want to go to the club with my gay girlfriends because I might want to talk to straight men that night. Or, I notice that the pride festival is a big event for them every year, (and I guess for me too, because I usually go with them, lol). Even little things like how friendships are formed and maintained are just different. So you're right, it's not just in the bedroom, and you saying it was enlightening.