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[QUOTE=So blessed!][QUOTE=PhrozenGenius]... If you constantly tell us, "N**** I don't need you," or "I'm an independent woman" then we naturally are going to be sick of hearing it because it's always confrontational. In confrontation we go into fight ot flight mode, when we're tired of fighting, we naturally fly away. Immediately thereafter we become the "Triflin' black man." QUOTE]
I seriously doubt if sistas who are married to brothas who are true heads of their households...are loving, caring, respectful, faithful to their wives, and good fathers...are telling these men they don't need them. We sistas NEED black men; the kind I just described. What we DON'T need are men who are weak, indecisive, unfaithful to us (thus exposing us to diseases that will rot out our reproductive organs, or kill us), childlike, etc.
I've heard Black men justify their interracial relationships by saying: Black women have too many kids out of wedlock, are focused on material wealth, not physically fit, uneducated, and ignorant. It would be less offensive if those men would just say, "I fell in love with this non-Black woman" instead of stereotyping all Black women as "chickenheads" to justify their selection of a S.O. What about the mothers and sisters of these men? Were or are they chickenheads? Black men should appreciate more than anyone else the diversity and beauty of Black women.
This excuse is just that...an excuse. I know too many women who do NOT have multiple children out of wedlock, who ARE physically fit, who burned the midnight oil studying AND held down a full time job, and who are intelligent. I happen to be one of these many women. I would respect these black men much more if they'd simply say, "I find white women more attractive than black women", and keep it moving. The excuses are tired. I'll end with this: let Black men have white women if they choose. And understand that, should they suffer "consequences" of their choice, don't look to the Black community to stand up for them, march or protest on their behalf. We apparently are not good enough to be their wives and the mother of their children, but we're just fine for marching/protesting on their behalf when some "racial strife" befalls them. I don't think so.
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