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Originally Posted by divainred
No, I don't think you are allowing him the power to take the relationship to the next level, because if you are not ready then you can say no and then the burden is on you. Who knows, you might have to propose to him and give him the choice of saying yes or no next time (if there is a next time).
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Not to sidetrack this thread....BUT...
I know many people that believe that a declined proposal is a definite end to a relationship. Several theories why:
1. Weirdness factor - it's out there, and now either the girl starts to feel the pressure or the guy feels squicky for getting rejected.
2. Biological clock - He's proposing because he's ready to settle. If the girl is not ready to settle, it might be time to find one that is.
3. Why? - The guy starts to think about whether she's just not ready to get married to anyone, or if she's not ready to marry HIM. If she's not ready to get married period, see #2. If she's not ready to marry HIM, why continue the relationship further??
I'm not saying I agree or disagree, but I'm just throwing it out there.