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Originally Posted by Senusret I
Being gay isn't just what you do in the bedroom. Straight people convince themselves of that in an effort to be pseudo-tolerant. Gay people concince themselves of that because of self-hatred and shame. Being gay is about love (something straight Greeks bring to the table when wearing their wedding band or talking about a date), a social life (differences in where one might club), political activism and social action (gay black pride festivals), and other nuanced differences between straight and gay people which makes us different, yet equal in the eyes of brotherhood (in my opinion).
....Perhaps this chapter will get conversation going -- a much needed dialogue between people who are really about brotherhood.
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Great post and you are absolutely right (I stand corrected) being gay is not just what you do in the bedroom. Forgive me if you took offense, it was a call to stop putting labels on HUMAN BEINGS. Yes, being gay (openly) in a traditional black fraternity is a taboo. A taboo that may never be resigned. A mindset carried over from society, in general. Although I applaud Dr. Parks for wanting to bring it to the forefront, it must, essentially, start in the frat houses. Brothers must interact (socially, politically, economically, mentally *and all of the other 'allys'. LOL*) with (openly gay) brothers as equal men.
As a straight man, my perception would not have changed from reading a book; however, my perception of gays did change when two sisters, an older aunt and a male cousin 'came out of the closet'. Maybe I am bias, because it was family that made my attitude change, probably, but I know I have been a supporter of gay rights ever since. I even marched in a gay pride parade in NYC with some gay friends. It felt weird (being honest), but empowering to stand up for a right that really do not directly effect me.
Yes, society forces us to view each other differently; should WE, personally, view each other differently with rigid labels? I hope not. My rose-colored glasses do see when WE as human beings will not separate love, social life, political activism and social action into categories of people's choices.
Now, to play both sides of the fence, I do have problems (being honest) with men who over exaggerate (negative) women characteristics. Please do not get me wrong here.
I am not talking about men who know they are men but have subtle feminine traits. Cool, no problem. I am talking about the men who switch very hard, flailing their arms around to get attention, neck rolling and sucking teeth all characteristics that are demeaning and negative for even women to have.
The same goes for the women who go to extremes to act hard and masculine right down to the grabbing of the crotch. What is that about? LMAO. I have problems with men grabbing their crotch while talking to me so you can imagine my dismay when women do it.
Brother Rashid, as always, your words and thoughts are well needed and heeded. I truly enjoy all of your posts in GC and clicking onto your website.
The Old (Guilded) Gold is great, but you need alittle bit more Charcoal Brown up in the gallery. LMAO. Just joking bruh. Peace and blessings to you and anyone who can take something away from this reply.
Luv is Luv.
Sonny