[Ace_of_Diam0nds]

There are way too many cases of domestic abuse nowadays... I would have to agree with the point that was made earlier... I would never be with and/ or marry a man who would abuse me, my children, or any pets. Those are stepping stones and, depending on how fast he advances on the stones, I could be next and who needs that in their lives? Life is already overly complicated without someone adding his personal problems to my face. I do not know exactly what I would do if it happened, but I would never put myself in a situation where I would not be able to get out. I have seen it done and it will affect you, your children, and their perception of the abused... for better or for worse. All I have to say is that should it ever happen, I hope he hits hard enough to leave a mark because please believe I will go to the police and his family about it. Oh and I would also have a restraining order on him just in case. In one of my classes, we were discussing options and that is the best scenario. Not solely to embarrass him, but to have him realize that it is not okay and that he must be held accountable for his actions. Most abusers are not told that they are wrong by society and all of the blame goes to the abused. I think this is mostly because everyone can relate to being annoyed to the point of violence against another, however, most people either have not been in the abused situation or are not willing to admit they were abused for fear of being blamed and being abused more without help from others. We need to change the way counselors address the situation especially in the areas where counselors value the concept of marriage over the well- being of the married persons. If one knows she has to leave for her well- being, the people around her should not make her feel bad for leaving a dangerous situation especially the men around her who do not see the issue with a woman being hit... but this is the society that is shaped on the backs of the abused... so what more should we expect? Isn't it ironic that now that women are allowed to do pretty much what we want, we are still tied down by the same domestic ties of our foremothers?