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I've had 3 miscarriages, all within the first trimester. I mourned all 3 of them when they happened, and since they've been rather recent, I still remember the time of year (though I can't recall the exact dates) that they occurred. The only time I mention my miscarriages is when discussion calls for it (much to the dismay of some people who apparently prefer to keep pregnancy loss a secret).

IMO, what adds to the emotions is the d&c procedure - done @ a hospital, under anesthesia... I can only describe it as very sorrowful. I don't like to think about those times..waking up after it's all over, it's very devastating.

Anyway, I've had friends who have miscarried AFTER the first trimester (around 20 weeks) and had to go through labor. (When this happens, usually the parents have a burial, as did my friends.) I can't imagine the emotional rollercoaster they went through.

The way people choose to mourn is very personal. Why criticize them?