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I think it greatly depends on the circumstances. I had a miscarriage after just a few weeks, after getting pregnant while on the pill. I was more stressed than happy about that pregnancy, so I didn't mourn. Had I been trying for years to get pregnant and gone through all kinds of fertility steps to get pregnant, then I would have felt differently, I'm sure. With my two healthy pregnancies, I can honestly say that I didn't really feel connected to those babies until I started feeling them move.. around 22 or 23 weeks. That's when I felt like there were living things inside of me and started really interacting with them. Before that point, I pretty much just felt like I had the flu. It's impossible to figure out how I would have reacted if I had miscarried either of them. They weren't planned, but they were very wanted, so my mind set was definitely different with them than with the first pregnancy.
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