Great advice, SummerChild!!
F8nacn, if I were you I'd ask my Greek friends what the nature of the event will be. Personally, unless I was sure I wouldn't look like a tag along, I wouldn't attend. Going out with my Memberfriends to a restaurant or something is one thing, because Greek affiliation is not the main purpose for the gathering. But an NPHC function is all about Greeks and Greek Life, so if you feel comfortable enough, then go for it. You might meet some really nice people. But don't make it seem like you're only there to make some connections so someone can 'hook you up'.
This sort of thing is why I manage my social time with my Memberfriends because I'm not trying to get the label of being the 'tag along'. I don't want it to be 'Oh, there goes the XYZ's and PerfectVerse AGAIN', so I'll give my Memberfriends space, thank them for the invite, and get up with them at the next outing. Plus, I'd have to deal with answering 'Are you an XYZ?' or people assuming I'm a member because I'm in a group of members. I've had plenty of 'embarrassing' moments where women have run up to me and hugged me, thinking I was their soror, and I've quickly corrected them.
I find meeting members in situations like an NPHC picnic to be much better because it's not as blantly obvious that I'm interested. If you're a non-Greek at a Greek function and there's not many other non-Greeks attending, then it kind of screams that you are interested. But like I said, it depends on the nature of the event. I'm sure you'll make the right decision!
