Amen girl! And ya know what? if you give a manipulator an inch, they will later on take a mile. Why? Because they can
First it will be I will disown you if you move out
Then it will be I will disown you if you get involved with that person
then...
there is no end to it...unless you kill the noise!
Dad will get over it...if not, tough shit
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Originally posted by valkyrie
When people are manipulating you, you have two choices: you can refuse to be manipulated and go do your own thing OR you can give the manipulator what she wants, which reinforces the behavior, making it more likely that she will continue to manipulate you in the future. It's that simple. When my dog begs for food, you're damn right I'm not going to give him any because that would teach him that begging for food results in getting food and he'd just do it more often. Dealing with people isn't any more complicated than that.
Doing your own thing isn't always easy, but it's the only way you're going to be able to have your own life.
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