[IowaHawkeye]

one of the greatest things i've ever picked up from Oprah and Dr. Phil (god i love them!!!!) is that there is a difference in the mourning process. If you sit around and wonder what happened/what you could have done to change things/try to change yourself and your behavior b/c of this one person - youre going to be missing them and trying to put them behind you for a long ass time.

now if you take one day, and really try to say, today i'm going to get out of bed, shower, get dressed, and go from there - youre already making progress. don't worry about what's behind you - thinking about the coulda/shoulda/woulda's can mean total self esteem destruction. each day gets better than the one before it - and pretty soon you will start having great days again.

but - people mourn the loss of relationships in different ways - what works for me may not work for you. Some people need to bitch and moan with a bunch of girlfriends and a few quarts of Ben and jerrys, others need a day of peaceful reflection, and still others need to curl up in bed and cry (anyone See the Will and Grace when Nathan said no to Grace's proposal - thats what i'm talking about - mourn your way or else you may carry it with you forever!)