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i agree with you perfectverse. i didn't want to go into a long,drawn out explanation, but in senruset's example his acquaintance said the offensive phrase he said just "slipped out". i meant that if it did just "slip out", then it is probably a phrase that he uses enough, that in senruset's situation, the offensive phrase just popped out, without the "friend" thinking about what they were saying. it is a habit.
i have a teenage son. i am sure around his buddies he swears time and again. every so often, at home, a curse word might slip out(like when he is playing a computer game). now i don't approve of that, and i call his attention to it, but i know that he said it without thinking. he screws up at home because he joins his buddies in cursing, as teenagers do.
i am not in any way excusing senruset's "friend". i am saying that if the friends didn't say the offensive stuff often enough, then it would not have "slipped out".
but this could be an opportunity to educate the offender, if senruset can find it in his heart to forgive him.
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