Ok, all of you self appointed arm-chair Sigmeund Freud's in the room, do you mind if we review your various but similar diagnosis of this human being's mental dysfunction? And I hope you all haven't cashed your checks yet . . .
Hey, I was with you, reading along and going "rah rah" imprison her or burn her at the stake. But then I thought about it . . .
One of the responsibilities of personal or organizational leadership (and maybe human maturity) is to be able to check our emotional gut or intuitive reaction againt a good thinking criteria to allow for better decision making.
So this is what I reread in light of having to make a decision:
1. Maggieaxid used to baby sit a kid that thought was very brattty, and acted obnoxious and spoiled. (I recall running away from my baby sitter once because I couldn't get my way but was enticed back for dinner, luckily she didn't tell my Father). And has held that opinion of her since that time. She has also heard bad rumours second hand about her (I assume second hand because of the age difference.)
Bad rumours: She may have skinned a stolen cat. She got into fights in school and around the neighberhood. She may have keyed her ex-boyfriends car.
Authors note: For those of you who think keying a car is less serious, you are wrong. ITs psychotic behavior that should be punished by death. Keying a man's paint job is evil. But I guess we all have different buttons to push.
Everyone here is pretty credulous.
A 13 year old girl stole a cat and then had the strength to hold a cat in place and forcibly remove all its skin and fur with some less than razor sharp blade without being scratched to pieces? I am not sure I could do that now. But I guess a future psychotic might have access to such incredible brute strength. Or be intellegent enough to engage in ritualistic butchery by sedating and then restraining the animal first. Of course if the little monster were smart enough to do that she would be smart enough not to get caught. Remember, no one catches those budding psychopaths till much later. I might believe she partially shaved it, and I might definitely believe she might have tried to keep her neighbors cat.
Note: There are three indicators of sociopathic behavior and all must be present: torturing animals, wetting the bed, and pyromania. Not all people that did these things become criminals, many stay on this side of the law by seeking jobs of authority and control such as law enforcement.
Many people have a combination of those traits. Bed wetting, playing with matches, or playing with the parents lighter etc. But there are degrees that are important.
As far as fights go, what are we talkiing about, knife fights yesterday? Or the kind if fist fights a tom girl might get into like a boy? The kind that boys get into all the way through college and beyond?
Most of the rest of the posts are meaningless because they are based on the horror of mentally seeing a cat skinning and predicated on the belief that this girl cruises through the woods looking for small furry animals to ritualy abuse in the finest tradition of Dr. Evil! Or as some have you compared her: the Jeffrey Dahmer's and Ted Bundy's of the world.
Again she must have been superhuman because giving my cat a bath used to spark major feline rebellion.
It sounds like the girl isn't very popular and is certainly not well liked in some circles, although she thought well enough of you, maggieaxid to send you an email asking for your adivce and help.
It also sounds like people have enjoyed spreading some rumours behind her back, engage in a little character assassination. We should all know by now how bad that can be and how even little things can grow and become viscious and cruel.
OBviously you are closer to the situation than we are but if I can think of some of these arguments in a couple seconds, they are pretty obvious. So its up to you how you would vote and maybe more importantly what rational reason you use to come to a decision.
One of the questions I'll ask myself if I don't like someone but have to judge them is, "what would be my approach if they were my best friend? Or if I barely knew them?" I take the opposite with my good friends in business settings.
So if you are interested in being fair I would say this: If you have honest first hand recent and compelling information that makes you belief that this girl is a direct physical danger to other human beings then you should proactively right a no-rec.
If not, you have a dilemna, especially because you have admitted to us you don't like the girl regardless of your justification. Under this condition I would say that you should just tell her honestly that you don't feel comfortable writing a rec for someone that you don't have a current personal relationship with that lets you judge them on today versus yesterday.
As for many of the rest of you, I would hate to be tried in the Court of Public Opinion if you were my judges and my prosecutor wanted to paint me badly. Many of you don't ask many questions, look deeper, seek clarification, or even qualify your comments based on the possibility that the person relating a story to you might be partly or totally wrong. All someone would have to do is come on here and say that James kicked a cockerspaniel to death, it was the talk of the town, and I would become the evil one.
Thank you for your time.
James
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Originally posted by maggieaxid
Alright, I just found out that this girl I used to babysit for, who lives in my neighborhood and have known for most of my life will be going to Elon. She just emailed me to tell me all about how she wants to be in a sorority and if i can get her in ect....
the thing is is that I can't stand this girl. She is a brat and a snob and always has been. There are also a lot of things that I know that she has done that I, and many other people haven't been to keen on....example: one time she stole this old woman's cat and when the old woman went to her parents about it, she skinned it and then gave it back...she is crazy!
Is it wrong for me to write a "Don't let her into our chapter" reccomendation?
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