Quote:
Originally posted by Senusret I
On topic.....I am a gay man who is very aware of how I give compliments. I find that when I tell a dude "you look nice today!" in a totally non-threatening way, it goes over well. I am generally referring to an outfit, hairstyle, or whatever. And though everyone knows I'm gay, no one assumes I'm hitting on them. I also give back-handed compliments, too, like was said above "It's about time you got a haircut." It's just my personality.
|
Can I ask you a question? Hopefully this won't come off as offensive...
Do you think your compliments go over well because of the way in which you deliver it or because you are a gay man and people assume you are more aware of how a man looks? I ask this because one of the men I was discussing this with is gay and he argued his point against the heterosexual males we were hanging out with, and the straight males stated that the gay male was able to give another man a compliment because of the fact that he is gay, while everyone else said that it's not a matter of being gay or straight, it's just a matter of being comfortable within yourself as a man to give another man props when he looks good.
We also had a straight male in the group who said there was no problem with him giving another man a compliment. He doesn't gush like females may do, but he just says "Hey man, I know those hazel eyes of yours have the ladies falling all over you!" and most men don't feel uncomfortable with that.