Yes, Ladies, I remember WANTING all of those qualities in a husband. And my husband is a WONDERFUL, WONDERFUL man. He's very, very good to me. But there's ONE thing that I didn't see any of you guys list and that one thing is...POTENTIAL.
Ladies, BELIEVE me, no matter how good the guy is, if he doesn't have POTENTIAL to be all of those things (or atleast some of those things) that you listed, then you'll be single for the rest of your lives. You see, with men, I believe that you have to be able to look BEYOND what he's showing at present. I tell my best friend this all of the time because, to me, she seems to be expecting to much up front from a potential mate. Whenever you do that almost ANYONE that could be a good husband is passed over.
For example, you've been dating this guy and you KNOW that he is essentially a good guy. He is ambitious, patient, humble, caring, sensative, and all of that. BUT...he's not "college-educated", OR he currently says that he does not want children, OR he doesn't have any hobbies, OR he doesn't have a strong spiritual foundation, OR he doesn't have a big "ding-dong"
...what do you do? YOU WORK WITH HIM. That's what you do. He's not college-educated, but he has a high position on his job and he's continually moving up. He doesn't have any hobbies, but he's interested in certain things that could be seen as hobbies. He presently says that he doesn't want children, but he's good with children plus he's never had any reason to want children in the first place. He doesn't have a strong spiritual foundation, but YOU do and he has a "willing" spirit. He doesn't have a big penis, but he's romantic and commited to satifying you sexually. LADIES, WE HAVETO HELP THESE MEN.
Lots of good men fall through the cracks because we set our expectations/standards SOOO high that they can't possibly reach them.
Now don't get me wrong, don't just settle for ANYBODY. And believe me, if God hadn't given me the ability to see my husband's potential, I probably wouldn't have married him. But I'm oh sooo glad that I did because he's better to me now as a husband than he was as a boyfriend.
I am deeply in love with my husband, but THAT ain't the ONLY reason that I married him...AND YOU CAN BELIEVE THAT.