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Originally posted by kddani
But theoretically, why should a house take a girl that only 50% of the house when there's another girl for that spot that 99% of the house likes? Why would you want to join a house where only 1/2 the people liked you?
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Please allow me to take this one:
We had a woman going through Recruitment whose brother was one of our favorite guys (most sororities have one or two of these), really a super guy. But his sister...! A lot of us could see potential, a diamond in the rough - long, black hair, beautiful blue eyes, nice skin and the worst potty mouth we had ever rushed! When she dropped the F bomb in front of ten, count 'em, ten Alumnae, 3/4 of the chapter was done with her.
With lots of campaigning, the odds became 50-50. With a bit more pleading, she got a Pref invitation, and with a slow Recruitment year, she got a bid to make quota.
Yippee! Hooray! Right? Wrong.
Her attitude - even with a LOT of guidance - became even more obnoxious, "I got in, you can't make me go!" Sisters who had previously been for her were horrified, then hostile. Our suite became very close to an armed camp, meetings became bitchfests. She started to turn the rest of New Members against the sisters. It was a nightmare. Many sisters just avoided the suite completely. There were four sisters assigned to stay with her, to take that leadership ability and turn it into a plus. Try to get that potty out of her mouth. Try to make her into the type of woman that was our chapter's style. It took over two months, but she destroyed us. Thank heavens, she depledged prior to initiation, along with two other malcontents.
We held initiation, and tried to make nice until the end of the year. By the beginning of the next term, our chapter, which was then second largest on campus (darn DZ's were
always the largest!), came back with less than half of the sisters. Honestly, they disappeared in the middle of the night - just moved out, cancelled their membership or wrote a check for the rest of the year, and were never seen again. If you saw one on campus, she'd turn the other way.
The stress of this ONE unhappy New Member was too much for most to handle!
To this day, whenever asked, I have said that, if a large number of sisters dislike someone - not on the fence, but dislike - DROP HER!!!
I've obviously had to leave parts out, but the bottom line is this:
No one woman is worth the destruction of your chapter. NO ONE!