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Originally posted by DeltaPyrite
I'm sure you know this, but that analogy just doesn't work. At all.
GLO's, especially during pledging, are a huge time and financial commitment. If you have to slightly neglect a friend, hang out with her less, not do everything with her that she wants you to, because you have family crises that are eating up your time and energy, she might be hurt, but ultimately it wouldn't be a permanent and official end to your friendship (if she's a true friend!). If that happens during pledging, if you can't fulfill your commitments to the sorority and you have to depledge, that's entirely different from neglecting a friendship that you can always return to.
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That's why I said it would be as if you told a friend straight up that you couldn't be friends with her anymore. I didn't say it's like temporarily neglecting a friend.
Yes, everyone knows there's more to a sorority relationship than a friendship (mandatory events, money) but only in the most dire cases can some kind of arrangement not be worked out for a sister in need. Temporary alumni status/chapter status/"abroad" status are all options that we've exercised for girls with money and family issues. That's why we don't understand when girls depledge/deactivate and don't give us a chance to help.
ETA: And we have special arrangments specifically for new members that can allow them to transfer their new member period to a later date.